Dear Gay Closest Friend
We have a nagging problem i just can’t find out. I will be from a tiny country town and also have been the sort that likes town guys. I love every thing about them – their swag, the direction they dress, therefore the method they carry by themselves.
One time I became within the Dollar General Store and came across this person, “Carl, ” from Washington, DC. Carl said he had been in city because he’d been focusing on a building for just two years. We exchanged figures and two months later Carl calls, and had been telling me personally about himself. He stated he’s a large Kanye West fan, really into fashion, and a football fan that is big.
Carl asked I said yeah if we could chill one night and. We started talking and he told me that everyone he comes across thinks he’s gay when I got to his house. My eyes got actually big. We asked, “Why do they believe you’re homosexual? ” He said, “It’s because I’m well-groomed. We manage my human body. I love to dress good and I also like clean things. ” We stated, “Ok. ” then he asked, “Is that gonna be a nagging problem? ” We stated, “No. ”
That exact same evening he explained he hadn’t had intercourse since October and it also ended up being June. We’d intercourse and he strikes it through the straight back. I recall hearing that “Down Low” dudes like striking it through the straight back and nothing else. About four weeks or two later on he came across my relative so when quickly on him she said he’s gay, without even talking to him first as she laid eyes. When he left my relative asked, “Is he homosexual? ” We said, “No. ”
I enjoy him and he’s excellent. Therefore speak with me personally is he homosexual? –“Small Town Confusion”
Dear “Small Town Confusion, ”
Simply because you’re in a small town you’re perhaps not alienated through the globe. Clues are clues, honey. But i know the “Big City” man whom dazzled you together with looks that are good high-fashions, and sweet nothings made you poor in the knees. Girl, we’ve all been there.
Now, on the basis of the information you supplied just one thing sticks out that produces me go, hmmm, could he be homosexual? It’s that everyone else he results in thinks he could be. We result from the school that is old we now have a saying, “Everyone knows, you. ” Meaning, we have all peeped your card regarding the sex, however you come in denial. cams’
Nonetheless, we re-read your story and I also thought to myself, wait a moment, i am aware numerous heterosexual guys like your friend. They like Kayne Western. They gown nice, are well-groomed, and care for their bodies. Also they are soccer fans. And, on numerous occasions men and women have thought they certainly were gay. Awww, the key term, “assume. ”
The thing is that, Ms. Small-Town-Confusion, I place guys like your buddy within the group of, He’s Not Gay, But He has got Gay Tendencies. The reason by this will be their mannerisms and actions would make one instantly assume, based entirely on observation, they truly are homosexual. Yet, with them, you discover they are not gay, they are just slightly effeminate as you get to know these men, have conversation, and hang out. And, it might be on the basis of the reality they consult with a lisp, make use of their fingers if they speak, carry man-bags, and like being well-groomed. Those try not to make a guy homosexual.
Even taste Kayne West doesn’t equal gay. He makes good music. But, in case your guy is performing in a falsetto vocals, tracks by, Whitney Houston and Beyonce, in which he understands the routine to “Single Ladies, ” then uhm, girl, he’s homosexual.
But, i really do like he had been upfront to you as he said people think he’s homosexual, and asked in the event that you had a challenge along with it. Many males would run and give a wide berth to the subject, rather than share exactly what other people think about their sexuality. For me it shows he’s more comfortable with whom he could be. And, with himself he wants to know if you are if he is comfortable. And, you him told you had been.